There’s an old, outdated assumption that time heals all wounds. But I believe this to be untrue. In the words of Dr. Phil,. We are all more than capable of taking control back into our own hands when life knocks us down. It’s just a matter of doing so deliberately. Of constructing changes that will move us forward. Of finding a way to progress with intent, rather than simply letting life knock us around into whoever we will become next. When you’re feeling lost and disheartened with life, here are 26 simple methods of taking your power back.
1. Get In Shape.
Strong bodies and strong intellects run hand-in-hand. Forget about how your workout routine is constructing you look and start focusing on how it attains “youre feeling” on the strength, the dedication and the structure that it brings to your mindset. By harnessing your physical power, youre reminding yourself that youre capable of so much more than you used to be. In the words of Jillian Michaels,.
2. Get out of township.
Take a day, a week or a month to escape your usual surrounds and welcome in the world outside your doorstep. Sometimes a altered in mindset is as easy as a change in scenery and being away from home allows you the space, the freedom and the tranquility to mend on your own terms.
3. Rewrite your story.
The past is nothing more than a tale we repeat to ourselves and allowing ourselves to understand this is an unbelievably liberating notion. Visit a narrative therapist who can help you re-frame your experiences, or journal them out until youre able to come to a new understanding of why things happened the route they did. Learn to pinpoint the opportunities for growth within the extermination of your past and then move forward with those opportunities close to your heart.
4. Invite new people into their own lives.
The positive effect we are able to have on each other as humans is immeasurable. Sometimes the best way to heal from the toxicity of past relationships is to allow the beauty of new ones to flourish. We all end up supposing, behaving and being like the people we expend the most time around so choose all those people who make you want to be the best possible version of yourself.
5. Tell your narrative.
Be honest about your past. Share the pain of everything that’s happened to you and allow your strength in moving past it to inspire other people. Don’t hide or downplay anything that feels important to you. Refuse to apologize for where you’ve been.
6. Be disciplined about self-care.
When were sick, we take particular care to rest, drink liquids and take medicine even if it temporarily impedes on our productivity. When were fighting emotionally, we have to take care of ourselves in much of the same route. By stimulating self-care a priority, you are defining yourself up for a quicker and infinitely less painful recovery.
7. Change your appearance.
Sometimes we need a deliberate outward change to reflect a subtle internal one. By altering your hair, makeup or style, youre concretely greeting change into your life and recognizing that it can be a good thing. In fact, it can even be something that happens on your own terms.
8. Quit what isnt working for you.
When the stakes are down and our lives are lying in shambles, we are paradoxically awarded the ideal opportunity to start over. Use your ill fortune as the excuse youve “re waiting for” to walk away from that shitty chore, toxic relationship or commitment that is making you miserable. If youre going to be forced to start over, you might as well do it once, the right way.
9. Give yourself granted permission to let go.
Not everything that happens to us has to have a meaning or a lesson. If your past no longer serves you, give yourself permission to let go and forget about the pain that has been holding you back. You dictate your narrative and you dont have to place emphasis on anything that attains you feel small.
10. Connect with people whove been through something similar.
Seek out the words, company and consolations of those who understand what youre “re going through”. Read their tales, cherish the wisdom theyve gleaned and use it as a constant, permeating reminder that you are never alone.
11. Unplug for an entire week.
If you are able to do so, take a full week of your life and spend it outdoors or on the road, somewhere where your Facebook notifications cant reaching you. Sometimes it takes disconnecting from your everyday life to realise how trivial most of your frets are and how capable you are of existing completely outside of them.
12. Physically de-clutter your life.
Take a full weekend to clean your apartment or home in a way that you never is now before ruthlessly ridding it of everything you no longer use and organizing it in a way that feels mentally refreshing. When our physical surroundings are in order, it becomes easier to keep our minds uncluttered, too.
13. Strengthen your relationships with the people who love you.
A close friend once told me Theres no time like when youre down on your luck to realize whos really there for you in life. When everything is falling apart, take notice of who is still standing beside you those are the people who are always going to matter the most. And theres no time like the present to appreciate them for all theyre worth.
14. Follow the food guide for a month.
Even the healthiest among us arent always putting the right foods into our bodies. So for one month, to continue efforts to do so. Eat the right amounts of fruits, veggies, grains, dairy and meat( or meat alternatives ). Notice changes in your energy level and mindset and then try it all over again the next month.
15. Take a course that teaches you something new.
What we know changes the landscape of who we are. By adding to your internal database of knowledge, you are expanding your horizons and reminding yourself that there is always more to be learned and always more styles for your worldview to shift.
16. Stimulate a budget and stick to it.
Its difficult to feel in control of our lives when our finances are out of control. By coming face-to-face with our spending habits, were giving ourselves a leg up on subduing them effectively. Theres nothing quite as soothing as figuring out a style to live below your entails.
17. Establish a healthy source of validation.
None of us are islands. Though we all strive to be strong, independent adults in our day-to-day lives, we all need love and affection. And find a friend or loved one who is willing to remind you why youre wonderful when you forget it simply might be what maintains you afloat on the bad days. Validation is not toxic if youre trying it in the right places.
18. Become invested in the process of change , not the outcome.
Too often, we pit all of our hopes on future accomplishments that may never come to fruition. Rather than telling yourself learn to find exhilaration in the simple process of bettering yourself. Take pride in the fact that youre create changes for yourself, rather than pitting your happiness on the outcome of those changes.
19. Learn a new speech.
Learning a new speech may be one of the best available ways to remind yourself that theres an entire world out there one that operates on a completely different premise than yours. Perpetrating to learning a non-native language demonstrates that you could adapt and mould to one of those other realities if you wanted to which consequently induces you feel a little less defeated by yours.
20. Learn to walk away.
Perhaps the single most important step to regaining control over your life comes through learning to walk away from the situations that are holding you back. It takes an incredible amount of courage to break away from what youve known. But it also gives way to an incredible opportunity to start over the style youve always wanted to.
21. Let yourself be happier than you are comfy with.
Too often, we sabotage our own happiness out of a reluctance to trust it. Rather than permitting ourselves to grow into bigger shoes, we proclaim our feet not big enough and retreat. We have to start letting ourselves to let go of remorse and self-doubt and start confiscating possibilities as they originate. Even if we feel a little bit out of our league along the way.
22. Set and enforce boundaries.
There will eternally be people out there who are willing to rob you of your joy in exchange for a dosage of their toxicity. And one of the most important point lessons we may ever have to learn is that we cannot save those people from themselves. We have to learn to defined clear boundaries if we dont want to drown alongside them. Even if its person we love.
23. Cut out a vice for 100 days.
The idea of never drinking, smoking or eating junk food again is an intimidating enough mission for any of us to give up on before weve even gotten started. So instead of resolving to cut out one of your vices eternally, try cutting one out for 100 days. It is enough time for you to see the positive affects of what youve done, but a short enough time for the end to always be in sight. And who knows maybe once you realise how great you feel without one of your vices, it will turn into a permanent lifestyle change.
24. Try something that genuinely scares you.
There is nothing that boosts confidence quite like overcoming your anxieties. Construct a deliberate point to take on a challenge that has always frightened you when youre feeling down though it may seem like ridiculous timing to do so, the strength and sense of self-efficacy that will come from conquering your frets will take you further than you could possibly imagine.
25. Appear at how far you have come.
Look back at the person who was once so lost and then look at who youve become since then. You may not be all the way to where youd like to be, but youre on your route. And youre a hell of a lot further than you used to be.
26. Forgive others. Forgive the Universe. Forgive yourself.
Dont allow indignation or dread to keep you trapped in a damaging past. Allow yourself the opportunity to forgive those who have hurt you, to forgive the injustices done to you and to forgive yourself for everything you messed up on your route to redemption. Forgive not to relieve other people of accountability, but to ultimately allow yourself the freedom and space to move on. And to take your damn life back.