Theres a lot more that goes into a successful date than just looking good and reeking good. We always hope we wont act awkward, standoffish, or accidentally say something weird. You want the date to run smoothly, and you dont wishes to do anything that might turn off your date. Its never a good feeling to leave a date with someone youre interested in feeling as though it didnt go well, and feeling certain you wont be seeing him or her again.
Sometimes, the first few dates are agonizing and uncomfortable, but you then start to learn what types of dates work for you and you notice which dates allow you to feel more at ease and therefore less awkward.
With these tips, youll be able to avoid bad dates and figure out how to put a stop to an uncomfortable date before it starts. Here are 7 ways to make sure your next date isnt awkward 😛 TAGEND
Having a plan is one of the best ways to make sure your date will go smoothly. A plenty of introverted people and socially awkward people rely on this dating strategy. Your date night scheme should include things like reservations, an attire picked out, a decide period, a meeting place and a second location pre-planned in case the date “re gonna be okay” and you want to stay out.
Research things like comedy demonstrates, karaoke bars, and dont shy away from reading reviews and asking around so that you know what youre get into. Its a lot better than being astounded when a venue isnt at all what you expected. If you are able to, go on a reconnaissance mission so that you know what to expect, and if it doesnt go well, add it to your listing of date locatings to avoid.
When I suggest that you espouse distractions, I dont mean that you should be scrolling through Snapchat on your date. What I entail is, an awkward person doesnt require the attention on them at all times on a date. Run to places like open-mic nights, karaoke bars, slapstick clubs and improv centers so that you can enjoy your dates company without feeling the pressure to build conversation all night long.
I lately went for drinkings with a guy who planned the perfect date. He knew of a cute little eatery/ saloon that had 9pm stand-up slapstick performances every night. So, he suggested we meet there at 8p m, devoting us one hour to chat before we would be focusing on the performance. This worked well because it was easy to find things to talk about for an hour, but it was nice to be able to stop talking after that and just watch a indicate and laugh while his arm was around me.
If you somewhere fancy on your date, youll feeling even more uncomfortable and ingested with obsessive thoughts. At a fancy place, youll is just like and and Not to mention the fear that you didnt pronounce the menu item you ordered properly.
For some reason, you really feel the pressure and feel the high expectations at a fancy place. You feel as though you must be on your best behaviour, and you end up not really being yourself. Its better to keep it casual for the first few dates, until youre comfy enough with each other to survive the white tablecloths and 3 forks.
When youre choosing an outfit for a date, you want to avoid anything that requires upkeep, constant adjustments, or causes ache. For instance, dont wear the skirt that is notorious for always riding up. Dont wear the blouse with the buttons that sometimes pop open. Dont wear the red lipstick that smears. And definitely, dont wear the high heels that hurt to walk in. If you wear these things, youll attain your date awkward and feel uncomfortable.
There are plenty of lip stains that dont come off when you feed, and there are lots of stylish yet comfortable shoes. Fashionable sneakers are trendy right now and youll definitely be able to walk in them without complications.
In general, the noisy buzz of people and music will help you get through an unnerving date, and that noise in the background will also help you not notice any awkward silences. An awkward stillnes feelings 10 times more awkward in a silent, empty eatery. Ill tell you that much.
You dont want to go anywhere thats so loud that you cant hear one another talk, but you do want to pick a place that has a healthy level of background noise. Again, this is where research comes in handy. Youll get to know the restaurants and lounges that are always decently busy , not too loud and not too quiet.
Although going to the Zoo or going to a theme park appears to have been a good date notion, its not. At least not until youre comfy with such person or persons. Youre going to be waiting in long line-ups, and that can be awkward. Sometimes youre stuck in the sun and youre hot, sweaty and not in the mood to make small talk while you wait in line. Plus , nobody waiting in lines, so maybe its not as fun of a date notion as you think.
Im all about the romantic date, but its not something I want to partake in until Im confident that him and I will become something. I want to know that what we have is real, and get to know him in casual defines at first. It can be super awkward to go on an extremely romantic, extravagant and intimate date in the beginning. If you act too much like a couple too soon, you are able to end up frightening each other away. I induced the mistake of going on a romantic weekend getaway at an intimate hotel with a guy I had only been dating for a few weeks, and I realized it an unbelievably stupid thing to do. It was too soon, too awkward, and the last I ever assured of him.
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